Why Valentine's Day Actually Sucks (And Why That's Okay)

Let’s be real—Valentine’s Day isn’t for everyone. For some, it’s a cute excuse for chocolates and flowers. For others, it’s a full-on emotional shitshow. Whether you’re single, in a relationship, or somewhere in between, February 14th has a way of making you overthink everything. And if it feels like a lot? That’s because it is.

It’s everywhere. You can’t walk into a store, scroll through social media, or even talk to family without getting hit with some version of “So, any Valentine’s Day plans?” It’s the pressure—whether from society, family, or ourselves—to make the day mean something. If you’re single, you’re reminded of it. If you’re in a relationship, you’re wondering if you’re doing enough. Either way, it’s

For a lot of people, Valentine’s Day doesn’t just suck—it kicks up anxiety, self-doubt, and loneliness. Social media doesn’t help—seeing the highlight reels of everyone else’s love life can stir up a mix of emotions: comparison, past wounds, unmet expectations. Even if you’re generally content, this shitty holiday has a way of bringing up feelings you thought you’d moved past.

If you hate Valentine’s Day, that’s valid. If you love it, that’s valid. If you’re somewhere in between, that’s also valid. You don’t have to force yourself to celebrate just because the world tells you to. It’s okay to take a step back, stay off social media, and treat it like any other day. You don’t owe anyone shit for how you feel.

Forget the forced romance. What actually makes you feel good? Maybe it’s a self-care night with your favorite movie, a long solo walk, or making plans with friends. Maybe it’s working on a personal project or ignoring the day completely. The beauty of Valentine’s Day is that you get to define what it means for you.

If this time of year brings up tough emotions, give yourself grace. Set social media boundaries, remind yourself that what you see online isn’t the full picture, and reach out to people who make you feel good about yourself. Your relationship status does not define your worth. You are enough, exactly as you are.

You don’t need a relationship to be whole. You don’t need grand gestures to be loved. However you feel about Valentine’s Day is real, and it’s yours to own. No pressure, no expectations—just permission to do whatever the hell feels right for you.

How do you really feel about Valentine’s Day? Drop a comment or reach out if you need support. No matter what this day means to you, you’re not alone.